WHY THE GIVING OF GIFTS
Birthdays. Christmas. Anniversaries. Baby Showers. Valentine’s Day. House Opening. All of these has one thing in common… GIFTS.
At times these gifts can range from a few dollars to multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars. I’m yet to receive the latter. I’m still hoping and waiting. 😃
I’m not sure how giving a gift became a part of these celebrations. What prompted it? I’m sure I could make up a good enough explanation and so could you.
Some people wish they could skip some of these days. Some would rather not be invited to an event where it is expected of them to give a gift.
However, there are some who take great pleasure in giving and receiving gifts. Something happens when they do so. It’s dopamine to their brain.
Why are they that way?
I’ll try to answer that in a very succinct way but before I do, I’ll share this story …
CASE AND POINT
My daughter has a friend who loves to give gifts. Giving gifts is her hobby. 😃 It seems as if she gets a high from the dopamine that is triggered when she does.
This is her way of communicating that that person is important, loved, cared for, and is valued by her.
And she does not just get any gift. She goes all-in making sure the gift is one that she would get for herself.
Here’s the issue: whenever she gives the gift, she wants to know that the person receiving it thought the world of it.
How?
By their feedback. It’s important to her. It’s also true that she loves to receive gifts in return.
It is how she feels important, valued, cared for, and appreciated. If she does not receive the anticipated feedback, it sends her into a “depressive” or better said offended state.
The question is: did she give the gifts so she can get the feedback she wants to make her feel good about herself?
Whether she did or not is beside the point for me. I would never know. I’m sure she would not admit to such. I wouldn’t. Would you?
However, she is not the only one who is like this. She is just one of many.
IT’S WIDESPREAD
There is a large segment of society that does this. They are in your family, at your workplace, and among your other groups.
You might have seen them at work giving gifts at special occasions and wondered why. Are they buying love? Relationship? Attention? We’ll never know.
But here’s what you need to know: If you want to let them feel motivated, loved, valued, special and important, give them gifts in return.
They’ll not only be your “best friend” but also the best co-worker, worker, classmate, sister, brother, boss, and more.
GIFTS ARE FUEL TO THEIR FIRE
This is the way to motivate them and to let them know they are a special, valuable and an important member of the family or the team.
If you feel exhausted or broke just from reading this, then hold on, there’s good news. The good news is that not everyone is this way or we would be in trouble. As you can gather, this could be one of the most expensive ways to motivate and/or validate a person.
NATURE OR NURTURE
To the question I posed earlier: why are they this way? Is it nature, nurture or both? If you’ve read the previous emails, you’re aware by now my thoughts on the matter.
Are you this way?
Have you encountered this type of individual before?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this personality type of individual.
Leave a comment below and let me know.
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