WHY FORGIVENESS IS UNDERRATED
Forgiveness is one of the most underrated concepts in our society. Words like perseverance, redemption, invention, innovation, prosperity tend to catch our attention and have been given all the headlines. In modern America, at least for the millennial generation, there’s not much room for showing weakness, vulnerability, or humility. Or, at least, there is fear to show these, as if those bring forth with them undesired qualities.
Forgiveness needs better explanation and application. Humans, as relational beings, could greatly benefit grasping this concept. Heck, I believe revolutions, wars, and company collapses could have been avoided with forgiveness, but some might say that’s far-fetched.
Forgiveness is not equivalent to forgetting. It requires a grieving process whose time could very well vary and last months to years.
Forgiveness demands mourning and mourning requires action, not inaction – or lying sedentary for emotions and feelings to naturally restore themselves.
Forgiveness is a profound exercise that requires soul-searching and excavating through those layers and layers of false assumptions, hate, resentment, and agreements (untested lies) we have believed for long periods of time.
Forgiveness is tricky, for we may think we have done so, but many haven’t and realize it twenty or thirty of years after.
Forgiveness should be desperately searched for the same way we look for revenue streams, audience ratings, stories to uncover, and election victories. It should be searched and strategized similar to how we strive to win a war because what is at stake is our soul’s freedom – and with it a major release of stress and anxiety.
4 REASONS WHY FORGIVENESS IS UNDERRATED
What or who should we forgive?
Very simple: our parents, our relationships, anyone who has hurt us, and most importantly, ourselves.
Recently, I heard that we do not become men until we forgive our parents. The power of this statement is undeniable. Whatever happened or didn’t happen has an undeniable impact in our lives, and forgiveness is the ONLY key to moving on, as cliche as it may sound.
Secondly, if we don’t forgive failed relationships, we will be stuck in an emotional prison.
True, accepting our responsibilities is painful and very personal, but it shouldn’t be brushed off. If this requires months or years, then let it happen.
Thirdly, forgiving anyone who has hurt you also requires a LOT of energy.
At times, people build careers, personalities, and even false-selves based on the pain caused by others. The pain we hold might well serve to ‘get things done and show others how wrong they were (or how good we are), but it could also bring a lot of heartache and pain to our lives and those around us. I would bet that forgiving siblings, old bosses, and persons in our family could prove the key to changing lifestyles (and even professions).
Fourthly, and probably the most important one is to forgive ourselves.
We have all done some wicked, senseless, and idiotic stuff in our lifetime. However, we must decide whether we hold on to the person we were at some point, or the person we will become. First, let yourself ‘off the hook’ and this will allow you to forgive anything. Literally, anything. If we manage to do this, we will walk down the street and judge people in a different light.
Everyone needs to forgive, and forgiveness is how we better ourselves, our surroundings, and our world. Forgiveness precedes perseverance, innovation, and re-inventions.
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