These Three Basic Needs Of Relationships are foundational to their success. They are acknowledgment, Acceptance and Applause.

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Most of the conflicts that you experience in relationships can be traced back to you not being acknowledged. You want to know that your efforts are  making a difference. You want to be acknowledged for your contribution to the relationship you find yourself in. When this does not happen, you feel slighted; hurt. As a hurt person, you directly or indirectly want the other person or persons to feel your pain, so you end up hurting them. This could be done through the silent treatment or becoming aggressive through words or actions.

ACCEPTANCE

Being accepted for who you are, is of utmost importance. So many people want to change others and you might be experiencing that. When this happens, you take it personally; you feel less than, and sometimes, like you are being compared. This creates hurt and sadness, which could lead to feelings of depression. You become demotivated and thereby, pull away emotionally and even physically. Acceptance says “love me unconditionally.”

APPLAUSE

Applause is equal to praise. Praise comes as a result of something you do. It is a statement of appreciation and affirmation. You want to know that your effort is not in vain and when you are applauded, it simply says “someone noticed you.” We all need to be noticed. When there is a lack of applause, we begin to look else where for such. 

What’s your thoughts on these basic needs of relationships? How do you see them working in your life? Please leave a comment below.